Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Do you and your partner seem to argue about the same things over and over? Do small disagreements suddenly turn into huge arguments where neither person feels heard or understood? If so, I’d bet that you’re making at least one of these 5 common mistakes that actually create more unnecessary arguments in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m walking you through what those mistakes are, how they show up in relationships, and how to begin overcoming them TODAY. Mentioned in the episode...

You’re hurt about something that’s happened in your relationship. But should you say something? Is it just your thoughts? When should you speak up and when should you change the way you’re thinking about something? This is exactly what we’re talking about in today’s episode! Ready? Let’s dive in. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comHow to feel calm when they're not responding - Private podcast

Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious? Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately? Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner's idea of romance is splitting a chicken masala from the local takeaway. Comparison can leave us f...

Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you? Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently. One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake. My brain jumped to thoughts like: 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a bad friend' I even started catastrophising to... 'What if my friend doesn't forgive me?' 'What if the whole friendship group falls out with me over this?' So today...

Today I'm answering a question from a listener. "My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable. "Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a different style of relationship than what he initially wanted, and worried that he will inevitably change his mind and we will have t...

Is your fear of losing them pushing them away? Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them? In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away. And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns, and create connection with them instead. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with R...

Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram. Don’t reply if your ex messages you. Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going. Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour. In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgement call - and manage your mind in the face of any behaviour in your relationship. Mentioned in...

Today I’m answering real-life questions from listeners on their real-life relationship problems. Including: A person whose partner has expressed frustration when she’s upsetAnd boundaries around following people of the opposite sex on Instagram. Unless you’re the person that wrote it - you likely aren’t in either of those exact situations. That’s okay! Don’t skip the episode - because the way I coach on these topics is likely to help you see your own relationship mind drama in a new way, an...

Do you find yourself getting a little too attached too quickly in dating? Maybe you’ve met the person twice, but find your mood is completely dependant on whether they’ve replied to your message yet. Or maybe you feel like dating is a rollercoaster, and even when you didn’t really know the person - the rejection feels unbearable. If so, this episode is for you! I’m talking about why people get so attached in early dating, the signs to look out for, and what to do to stop this pattern and dat...

Do you ever worry that you’re just not lovable? When someone rejects you, or if someone has cheated, left, or rejected you in the past - does your brain jump to: I’m not good enough. There’s something wrong with me? If so - this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it really means to be lovable, and why how much someone loves you actually has nothing to do with you as a person. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection1:1 coach...

Protect your peace, it’s their job to meet your needs, heal before you get into a relationship… The online space is LOUD and full of well-intended relationship advice. But of course - the most common advice can sometimes be a little black-or-white - when in reality, relationships are filled with shades of grey. So we’re going to discuss more nuanced approaches to common relationship advice in today’s episode. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble - How to stop spiralling in th...

Do you ask your partner for reassurance multiple times a week? Or find yourself asking for reassurance on the same topic over and over and the anxiety still popping back up, despite what they say? Has your partner said they’re tired of reassuring you, and do you wonder how much reassurance is okay to ask for? If so, this episode is for you! I’m to talk about reassurance seeking, what it looks like in a healthy relationship, and most importantly - how to start reassuring yourself. Mentioned i...

Does the thought of your partner around other attractive women (or men) make you panic? Do you feel jealous when they talk about their co-workers, worried that they find them hot? Or do you feel on edge when they’re out in bars, afraid they’ll find other people attractive? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking about why your brain likely sees attractive people as threats, and more importantly - how to train it not to. Mentioned in the episode: Processing Emotions MeditationBook a R...

Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am? Why does an unanswered text ruin my day? Why does criticism seem so big and scary? Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong? Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety. Ready? LISTEN NOW! Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comYour Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in t...

They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment.They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up.You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free. What do all of these examples have in common? You're being sabotaged by your unmanaged mind. Let’s talk about it. Mentioned in t...

I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode. My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would. This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty. And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty you’re facing right now - you can perhaps use a similar approach and help create a feeling of...

When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty? When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. And how to let go of responsibility, while still being a ...

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate? If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety. And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle. So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you. Mentioned in the episo...

Are you facing rejection? A setback at work? A difficult friendship dynamic? An uncertain outcome? Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries? Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners. The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner. The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex. Mentioned in the episode: Join my email listWork with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’ Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life… And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings. It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever. And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand what it really means to take radical responsibility AND how to start doing it today! Men...

Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now? Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late.A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house.A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time.Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment. Mentioned in the episode: Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £991:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics. 1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment?2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio?Ready? Let’s dive in! Mentioned in the episode: Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships. So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it. I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner... AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a decision from an aligned, grounded place. Mentioned in the episode: Enquire about 1:1 coaching...

Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says… But what if I become delusional? What if I start believing I’m attractive, when the truth is I’m not? What if I start believing I’m good enough - and it turns out not to be true? If so, this episode is for you! I'm going to teach you: Why you're already delusional ;)How your current beliefs are creating your identityAnd how to actually change your beliefs ...

I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager. And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and the fearful minds of my clients, continues to be a fascination of mine. So in today’s episode - I’m sharing 7 of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about anxiety over the last few years. And offering you some perspective shifts to help you change the way you think about your anxiety - and approach in times of uncertainty. Mentioned in the e...

How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person? If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get triggered… right? Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about how that isn’t always the case. And helping you to reframe this thought into something a little more empowering and productive. Mentioned in the episode: The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99 (use discount code 'BOOTCAMP' for 20% off)Information about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@reb...

In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar! We cover topics including: Navigating old friendships when your interests have changedWhen the person you're dating won't say 'I love you'How to handle insecurity around a drop in sweet text messagesAnd feeling unsettled when someone is emotionally distant Even if you're not in one of these exact situations - the way I coach around them is bound to offer you something to take...

How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much? Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much? Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’? If so - this episode is for YOU! Mentioned in the episode: Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comDownload the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - HERE

We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities... But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget. So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality... So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own life, and start calling bullsh*t on the narratives that are keeping you stuck. Ready? Let’s dive in...

Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans. Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night. Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re suddenly unavailable. Whatever the relationship - we have ALL experienced some form of on...

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be. And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like: Handling the shock of betrayalWhy the brain obsesses over needing to know every detailThe meaning we make about ourselves and the futureShould you stay or leave?How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most) Mentioned in the episode: Processing Emotions MeditationEnquire about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorec...

Think more positively. Your thoughts create your reality. Just don’t sweat the small stuff. All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you. So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain... So that you can create the kind of experience of your relationship and life that you truly want to have. Mentioned in ...

Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible? Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person? If so - this episode is for you! March 1:1 coaching spots Email me directly at rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!

Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you. I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on. Some will resonate with you, others won’t. But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is. And what needs to change to overcome it. Mentioned in this episode: Get in touch about 1:1 coaching opportunities - rebecca@rebeccaorecoa...

Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure. And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure. Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work. So in today's episode I'm talking about: Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secureWhat being more secure actually meansAnd the one thing to work on to build genuine feelings of security Mentioned in the episode: Secure Conn...

I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles. And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn. Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway... Because you're going to learn how to: Separate facts from storiesClean up your own fears and insecuritiesAnd show up to relationship triggers as your mos...

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you? Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else? Do you often feel jealous and on edge in relationships? Like your brain is just scanning for signs that ...

When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action? Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging your group chat? Do you keep repeating the same anxious patterns over and over - and do you keep vowing to yourself you’re going to stop but - never the less, the patterns keep repeating? If so - you’re likely missing a vital skill. I’m going to teach you all about it in this episode. Mentioned in the episode: Enquire about 1:1 coaching...

Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own? Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relationships with others in an attempt to feel safe? If so - you might be stuck in the habit of self abandonment. Let’s talk about it! Email directly about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead? Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. Because you never succeed at them anyway? Whichever camp you land in - in this episode I’m talking all about why you don’t need a new YOU in 2026... And why what you actually need is a new relationship with the you you already have. I’m talking all about: Why change often doesn’t happenThe perfectionist fantasy trapAnd the real resolutions we sh...

Are you constantly worrying about what other people think? Are they mad at you?Do they like you?Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive? In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think. Download my 'Self Esteem Building Kit'. Email about 1:1 coaching in January 2026.

Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety? Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicking, then feeling momentary relief, only to find a new thing to worry about a few days later? Do you fear being left or cheated on, and can’t stop that fear from getting in the way of the happy relationship you could be experiencing right now? If so - this episode is for YOU! I’m talking all about embracing uncertainty and offering practical...

‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’ ‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’ ‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’ ‘They shouldn’t be so opinionated’ Ever find yourself ruminating about how all the other people in your life should change their behaviours to make your life easier? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m going to help you understand why your brain does this, why it isn’t useful and how to bring yourself back to what you CAN control. Mentioned in the episode: R...

How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’? Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how it isn’t always useful. AND offering you a new perspective to try on in its place. AND I’m also going to be talking about why we OBSESS over certain people or situations - and what to do when you notice your brain is in fixation mode. Mentioned in the episode: Request details of 1:1 coaching: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you! We're going to cover: Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that often come up in long distance relationshipsFeeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perf...

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to c...

In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles. Covering topics including: What to do when your husband has female friends you’re uncomfortable withFear of being rejected because of what you post onlineDealing with potential rejection after asking for more commitmentAND dealing with a mother-in-law that does not respect your boundaries.Ready? Let’s dive in!

You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back control of your side of the equation. But what happens if you’re doing all of that work - and your partner is continuously responding in ways that seem unsupportive, unkind, or pretty mean? Maybe being dismissive of your feelings, getting defensive - even after you’ve worked really hard to approach them calmly, or perhaps even being quite harsh or u...

Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggered Do you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear? If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger. Mentioned in the episode: Get in touch about my December 1:1 coaching packageJoin my email list